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"What is your advice for women planning to leave a physically abusive relationship?” It’s become the most common question I get. When I started this work, I thought I was talking about the mundane and shitty realities of the typical marriage: chore inequality, emotional abuse, misogyny. I always viewed these behaviors as abusive, and I think they’re reason enough to leave a relationship. What I didn’t realize is how strongly they correlate with physical violence, and how much more prevalent physically abusive relationships are.

Welcome to It’s A Shanda, one Northeastern Jew’s quest to find a decent bagel in Seattle (and beyond). Along with free bagel reviews every Sunday, we also offer bonus posts each Wednesday. If you’re already subscribed, I hope you’ll consider upgrading to a paid subscription! Thank you for reading. Can a bagel be healthy? Is that important? What does “healthy” even mean in that context? I suppose you can get a whole wheat bagel, apply a light layer of fat-free cream cheese, sprinkle a few sprouts on top, and call it healthy, but what are you even doing then?

Storm Lake will be a hot mess if local police are bound by state law to arrest and deport undocumented immigrants. Presumably, it’s the direction we’re headed since the legislature passed a law to that effect. Latinos who have been anxious for decades about their place here will feel like targets, if they already don’t. If you are brown, you would be well-advised to find the fastest route to Minnesota. Worthington is looking for help.

"Ignore negative people. They’ll find a problem for every solution." I read this “quote” on Twitter earlier in the week and I’m torn. On the one hand, I am all for ignoring negative people. On the other hand, I tend to sit in the finding problems camp. I’ve never thought of myself as a negative person. Of course, I have my moments when life sends me bucket loads of shit. In those times I can get a little down but that seems common.

Embedded is your essential guide to what’s good on the internet, written by Kate Lindsay and edited by Nick Catucci. As if pictures of me as a teenager aren’t readily-available enough on social media. —Kate I don’t often get out my tin-foil hat. I’ve never put a piece of tape over my webcam; I don’t think our phones are listening to us. I tend to believe the simplest explanation is the most likely one, which, in the case of technology, is this: Any information a tech company has on us is information we’ve willingly handed over ourselves.

So the assassinations are ongoing- Mugafuli, and about five others, if I remember correctly, now this brave gentlemen. When will it end, we ask? When the guilty are afraid to walk among us imho. The targeted prosecutions are also continuing; Reiner Fullmich, Dr. Charles Hoffe, many more. Nuremburg 2.0 needs to happen if we are not to be governed by Sociopaths, at best. Time to wake up, Humans. Somebody, something, out there doesn't like us.

Welcome to Inside My Mind, (and screenshot folder, notes app, wishlists, open tabs, etc.) where I’ll be sharing a weekly rundown of whatever’s on my mind, which perfectly translates to, what’s in my search history. By Ilana Torbiner · Over 8,000 subscribersNo thanksncG1vNJzZmihnJa7osDOq5mippWne7TBwayrmpubY7CwuY4%3D

Hi, welcome back to Mixed Messages! This week I’m speaking to author Cecile Pin, who is of mixed-Vietnamese and French heritage. Cecile’s debut novel, Wandering Souls, follows the story of siblings Anh, Thanh and Minh as they flee Vietnam for Hong Kong, travelling by boat. With the siblings navigating refugee camps and resettlement centres until they reach Thatcher’s Britain, Cecile explores how the family rebuild their lives in a place that doesn’t seem to want them.

Raise your hands if you’re an Im Si-wan fan. Even if you’ve never heard of the former ZE:A K-pop idol-turned-actor, I would encourage you to check out this nuanced actor’s work. To get you started, I’m highlighting two of his K-dramas (“Misaeng,” “Summer Strike”) and a film (“Unlocked”). This post is a little longer than usual, so if you only want to read a particular review, you may do so by clicking on the specific title and it’ll take you directly to the section you’re interested in: